WEEK 3: GAINING CLARITY - IS YOUR GOAL YOURS?
Week 3 is here already and it's been so incredible to read your stories, and I can't wait to see how you will transform your life.
How did you get on with Week 2 of the challenge?
Week 3: Gaining Clarity
This week, we are going to focus on gaining CLARITY, listening to your heart and getting back to the basics, our focus will be resetting and setting our goals and intentions for the next 90 days and beyond.
Remember the 3 things you mentioned you want to be known for, it's time to identify why you want it and the actions you need to take that will help you achieve it.
When you gain clarity, even when you are faced with disappointments and rejections you will keep going because you know the fuel behind the goal. Often times, when we don't take action, half-ass our way and find excuses to not pursue our goals, it's because we are not clear on the things we want - simply because, we don't know our WHY!
Your goal: Get clear on your purpose, cause and beliefs that inspire you to do. Find the WHY behind it - what is the fuel? What would it mean for you when you achieve your goal?
CLARITY IS LISTENING TO YOUR HEART
The process of clarity is listening to your heart. Sometimes, you can easily confuse what what you want in life with what others want for you for. You might be so used to doing things your others think is best and is nudged to follow the path of others, by setting goals which are not necessarily yours.
To give yourself the freedom to make big leaps and do the things you have always wanted to do, you have to take the lead in your life by giving yourself permission to listen to your heart and doing what you want to do!
Sometimes we get caught in the trap of everyone else's formula for success that promises you a successful life, only to find it doesn't work because you are living a life based off others and you didn't know the WHY behind their formula.
This week when you set your goals, Step back and ask yourself, "Is this what I really want?" or "Does it serve me?"
Simon Sinek, author of Start with Why: explains why as "The purpose, cause or belief that inspires you to do what you do."
Finding your reason is key to your success.
MISTAKES I HAVE MADE WITH SETTING GOALS
For a long time, I would set big goals without digging deep to identify why I wanted to achieve that particular goal. When pursuing the actions that would lead me to my goal would get challenging, I would often dip out or I would half-ass myself by finding excuses.
Simply put, I didn't have a reason behind my goals or I wasn't clear.
GETTING CLEAR ON MY WHY
Earlier this year, when I set my goals, I was intentional about what I want and made a commitment to stick to the goals, which meant I had to get clear on WHY it!
For instance, my goal every year is to lose weight or maintain a healthy lifestyle. But this year I was more specific and got clear on why I wanted to achieve my goal.
My goal: Maintain a healthy lifestyle and lose 80 lbs by December 31, 2017 by exercising, drink more and eating clean.
My why (I had more than one): I want to release the pounds blocking me from my purpose. I want to increase my energy levels which will fuel my productivity. I want to feel more confident in my body and clothes.
- Exercise 3-4 times weekly
- Reduce my dairy intake
- Substitute drinks/juices for water
- Lose 10 lbs monthly
First of all, the goal of wanting to lose 80 lbs is ridiculous, since I didn't fact in bumps that show up along the path to achieving my goal. Why made 80 lbs not impossible, but unrealistic for the time-frame.
My real why is I struggle with poly-cystic ovarian syndrome (PCOS) and emotional eating, and gain weight at rapid rate and wanted to work on losing the weight.
So how has that been? Challenging. Some days, I really don't want to exercise and I would rather doing anything else but doing planks but the real reason behind my goal is to maintain a healthy lifestyle.
So how am I doing with my goal?
Since 80 lbs isn't realistic, I made some adjustments and my goal is now losing 5 lbs monthly coupled with the other actions mentioned above.
I got clearer on my goals and made them more realistic by factoring in challenging days and other activities that might happen.
1. Revise your goals for 2017
- Do they still align with your vision for 2017 or your life?
- How are you progressing? Do you need to make any adjustments?
- Think about why you want it, what is the fuel behind pursing your goal?
- Who do you need to be to achieve your goals? What mindset and habits do you need to cultivate?
- How are you going to make it happen?
- When will you achieve it?
- What do you need to overcome to make it happen?
3. Choose a major goal you want to focus on for the rest of this challenge. Choose one of the three things you want to be known for, let's identify how we can start making progress on that goal instead of wishful thinking.
- Set a SMART goal - make it specific, measurable,attainable, realistic, timebound
- What actions do you need to take to make it happen?
- Why do you want to achieve it ?
- How will you feel when you accomplish your goal?
Next week, we are launching into FULL ACTION. We will start looking at things we need start DOING to help you leap outside of your comfort zone.
For the next few weeks, the goal will be collecting no's and learning how to deal with perfectionism, rejection, failure, disappointment and bouncing back. And importantly, reframing our mindset.